You Can Live Through It
Written By: Chimere Patterson
My favorite childhood story was Cinderella. Stories like that can mold your mentality to think that once I overcome life’s challenges I too can have a “Happily Ever After” story. If that were only reality. After so many obstacles I wish I could say that all is merry and that I’m living Happily Ever After. That my life was trial and tribulations free.
Yes, I married my prince charming on April 13, 2013. Before marrying we already discussed children, how many we wanted, and when we wanted to have them. As women, I believe we have a natural instinct. Within 6 months of trying to conceive I knew something wasn’t right. We soon discovered that both of my tubes were blocked and my only options were surrogacy, adoption, or IVF. A week before starting the IVF journey, low and behold I found out I was pregnant. Only God can get the credit for that. He answered my prayer after a year of hearing “No” from doctors and I will forever be grateful for that. I have a healthy 17 month old that brings so much joy to my life.
Fast forward to now. My husband and I knew that we wanted to have children close in age so what the heck. Why not try again and see what happens? We ended up pregnant not once but twice. Both resulting in miscarriages. July of 2016 and then again in January of 2017. Never in a million years would I think this could happen to me. So many thoughts ran through my head. It began with a feeling that my life lacked normalcy. This is something I should naturally be able to do, right? As women our bodies are uniquely created to fulfill this task. I asked God “why would you allow this to happen”? Emotions of sadness and then anger overcame me. I was saddened because having children has been a desire of mine for so long. Angry because of the many stories I’ve heard of children being abandoned in trash cans after birth, or mothers that go on to carry a child to full term addicted to drugs. I’m thinking “why is this happening to me?” Lord, this is not part of my plans.
After depression tried to set in I had to remind myself who’s I am. That I do belong to the Lord. His plans are not always my plans and that there is a purpose for everything. I wish I could end this post by sharing that I’m pregnant but the reality is I’m not. I have found help and hope in God and his word. So this year I do plan to try again but I’m taking time to heal and enjoy my 17 month old. My prayer is that as you are reading this you are encouraged that you can live through it. Whatever trial or situations that you are going through right now know that it is specifically designed for you. It wasn’t created to depress you or cause you to feel hopeless. Yes, even you can live through it. Cancer, financial difficulties, divorce, death of a love one, etc. YOU CAN MAKE IT! Stop looking for the Happily Ever After and seek after what God is trying to teach you.
Yes, I married my prince charming on April 13, 2013. Before marrying we already discussed children, how many we wanted, and when we wanted to have them. As women, I believe we have a natural instinct. Within 6 months of trying to conceive I knew something wasn’t right. We soon discovered that both of my tubes were blocked and my only options were surrogacy, adoption, or IVF. A week before starting the IVF journey, low and behold I found out I was pregnant. Only God can get the credit for that. He answered my prayer after a year of hearing “No” from doctors and I will forever be grateful for that. I have a healthy 17 month old that brings so much joy to my life.
Fast forward to now. My husband and I knew that we wanted to have children close in age so what the heck. Why not try again and see what happens? We ended up pregnant not once but twice. Both resulting in miscarriages. July of 2016 and then again in January of 2017. Never in a million years would I think this could happen to me. So many thoughts ran through my head. It began with a feeling that my life lacked normalcy. This is something I should naturally be able to do, right? As women our bodies are uniquely created to fulfill this task. I asked God “why would you allow this to happen”? Emotions of sadness and then anger overcame me. I was saddened because having children has been a desire of mine for so long. Angry because of the many stories I’ve heard of children being abandoned in trash cans after birth, or mothers that go on to carry a child to full term addicted to drugs. I’m thinking “why is this happening to me?” Lord, this is not part of my plans.
After depression tried to set in I had to remind myself who’s I am. That I do belong to the Lord. His plans are not always my plans and that there is a purpose for everything. I wish I could end this post by sharing that I’m pregnant but the reality is I’m not. I have found help and hope in God and his word. So this year I do plan to try again but I’m taking time to heal and enjoy my 17 month old. My prayer is that as you are reading this you are encouraged that you can live through it. Whatever trial or situations that you are going through right now know that it is specifically designed for you. It wasn’t created to depress you or cause you to feel hopeless. Yes, even you can live through it. Cancer, financial difficulties, divorce, death of a love one, etc. YOU CAN MAKE IT! Stop looking for the Happily Ever After and seek after what God is trying to teach you.
How I Met The Author
Chimere Patterson and I became family when she married her Prince Charming - Zairreus Patterson, my husband's first cousin. I am so grateful to him for introducing me to such a strong woman. Context: When I asked Chimere to write a post, her response was "which testimony would you like me to write about." Never have I seen someone go through so much and not only continue to keep her faith in God but to also praise him for the process. Everything about who Chimere is and how she lives her life has been a testimony to me. She laughs hard (even through tough times), loves even harder (if you've ever heard her speak about her husband and daughter you know this), and she lives for God the hardest.
Chimere Patterson and I became family when she married her Prince Charming - Zairreus Patterson, my husband's first cousin. I am so grateful to him for introducing me to such a strong woman. Context: When I asked Chimere to write a post, her response was "which testimony would you like me to write about." Never have I seen someone go through so much and not only continue to keep her faith in God but to also praise him for the process. Everything about who Chimere is and how she lives her life has been a testimony to me. She laughs hard (even through tough times), loves even harder (if you've ever heard her speak about her husband and daughter you know this), and she lives for God the hardest.